When you’re going through a divorce, it’s easy to put your health on the back burner. You’re juggling emotions, decisions, responsibilities, and taking care of yourself can feel impossible. But here’s the truth: you can’t get through divorce strong and clear-headed if you’re not taking care of your body and mind.
I learned this lesson the hard way. When I went through my divorce, I didn’t prioritize my health. I was stressed, running on empty, and doing everything except taking care of myself. I’m sharing that honestly so you know this advice comes from experience, not perfection.
If I could go back and do things differently, here’s exactly what I would do to stay grounded, healthy, and resilient during divorce.
I didn’t start therapy until two years after my divorce, and the insight I gained was life-changing. Don’t wait that long. Having a professional who can help you process emotions, set boundaries, and rebuild your confidence is invaluable.
Friends and family may mean well, but they’re emotionally invested. A licensed therapist offers unbiased guidance and tools to help you heal, reduce anxiety, and move forward with strength and clarity.
Exercise doesn’t have to mean joining a gym or starting an intense workout routine. Simply moving your body for 20–30 minutes a day through a walk, yoga, stretching, or dancing in your living room, can make a huge difference.
Your body holds on to the stress, sadness, and tension of divorce. Moving helps release that energy and boosts your mood through endorphins. Even gentle movement helps you sleep better, think clearer, and feel more in control.
During divorce, appetite changes are common. Some women lose interest in eating, while others turn to comfort foods. Neither extreme helps you feel strong or balanced.
Focus on eating foods that fuel your energy like lean proteins, vegetables, whole grains, and fruits. If cooking feels like too much, stock up on healthy prepared meals or order nutritious takeout.
Invite friends for dinner or brunch. Good food + good company can help ease isolation and keep your nutrition on track.
I love coffee as much as anyone, but caffeine can backfire when your nervous system is already on overdrive. Too much caffeine can heighten anxiety, jitteriness, and sleeplessness, all things you don’t need right now.
Try to keep it to one or two cups a day, and balance it with water or herbal tea. You’ll feel calmer, steadier, and more in control.
When you’re hurting, that nightly glass of wine might feel like comfort. But alcohol is a depressant; it can actually make sadness, anxiety, and poor sleep worse.
If you choose to drink, do it socially and in moderation. Better yet, skip it altogether for a while. Your body, mind, and emotions will thank you.
Writing is powerful therapy. Spend just five or ten minutes in the morning or before bed journaling about what’s on your mind.
It doesn’t have to be neat or structured, just get your thoughts out of your head and onto paper. Over time, you’ll notice patterns, gain clarity, and release a lot of emotional tension.
Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated. Taking a warm bath once a week—or even every couple of weeks—can help relax your body and calm your mind.
Add Epsom salts or essential oils for extra relaxation. This small ritual can remind your body that you are safe, supported, and healing.
Divorce is emotionally draining, but prioritizing your health will give you the strength to make good decisions, rebuild your confidence, and create a new chapter that feels good, inside and out.
Remember, healing takes time. Keep checking in with yourself, listen to your body, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
You deserve to be well. You deserve to be happy. And you are going to get there.
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