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Habits To Add After Divorce

A pink journal to use to record Habits To Add After Divorce

These three habits to add after divorce can really help you adapt to your new life!

Creating new habits when you’re divorced is a great way to manage stress and today I am sharing three habits to add after divorce that can help you change your perspective and actually feel better about where you are. Since getting divorced is the end of one chapter and the beginning of a new chapter, the new year is the perfect time to implement them! Here are three practices to help you have a positive mindset in the New Year and mange divorce stress:

1) Practice Gratitude. Every day, write down 5-10 things you are grateful for. Some people like to do this before they fall asleep at night as a peaceful reminder of what is good in life. I’m usually too tired to write anything at night, so I prefer to do this practice with a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. If you feel you need a prompt, there are many journal options to support this practice.

2) Recognize what actually is in your control. Getting divorced can create an overwhelming feeling that you have lost control of your life, or lost your way. Every day, pay close attention to everything you do have control over. It could be the smallest things such as what you eat, or bigger things like who you surround yourself with. Highlighting to yourself the many, many things you do actually have control over will help keep you grounded and feeling in control of your whole life.

3) Release that which you cannot control. This one is the hardest! Women often complain about things that their ex has done, or is currently doing, or the new partner in their ex’s life is doing. The serenity prayer may become very useful for you:  God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference.  There are going to be many things you wish you could change from the past, and things you want to change in the present. Practice identifying what things you can and cannot control in your new chapter of life. That which you cannot control, you need to accept or you may not be able to move forward successfully.

If you’d like more tips on how to Manage Stress, check out this article on Creating a New Normal.

There are lots of opportunities for habits to add after divorce and starting with these three can help you get sound footing as you begin your new life, give you clarity to know what you WANT to do and what you NEED to do and help you start recreating the foundation for your new life.